Resistance Is Contagious
"[Younger], what should I make [Older] for breakfast?""His own flesh.""[Older], what should I make [Younger] for breakfast?""I was going to say pancakes, but: his own flesh.""See? Cooperation will often benefit you more than hostility."
For the record, [Younger] doesn't like pancakes; so [Older] wasn't planning on being generous, just didn't have the same stakes in mind as his younger brother.
Humans are innately social. We constantly, automatically look to others to determine how to act and what to think--without even being aware of it. Others are always influencing us. And we are always influencing others. It's instinctive, unconscious, and inescapable.
Who you are, what you say, and how you act will always have at least some small impact on everyone who observes you. You contribute to the collective consciousness, will always sway in some small way the behaviors, thoughts, and values of groups you're a part of.
In situations where you desire change--where you might hope others will join you in some form of defiance or resistance--compliance, silence, and acceptance will signal to others you support the status quo. Dissent, though, signals to others that they can also disagree. That they are not alone in also disagreeing. Dissent gives permission to more dissent, lends support to resistance. It alters the group's collective outlook. Actions, words, conversations--big and small. It all contributes. It can add up. If there is enough, it can make a positive spiral or feedback loop, building towards the change you want.
Resistance is contagious. Expose others to your resistance.
I shared with my friends on Facebook this letter I recently submitted to my elected representatives at house.gov and senate.gov:
My Representative/Senator,I am a life-long Kansan. I work for the local government as a public servant (librarian), my parents were both public school teachers in Kansas, and many in my extended clan have also served their Kansas communities as teachers, police officers, and similar.I first want to say that Donald Trump, Elon Musk, and their administration do not represent my values. I oppose the majority of their policy positions. And I would like to see you take that into consideration as you represent your Kansas constituents in your decisions and negotiations.More importantly, I vehemently oppose the methods the administration is using to implement their policies and positions. I accept that my views may not be in the majority and don’t expect them to be uniformly enacted; however, I expect them to be respected, considered, negotiated, and subject to due process and compromise. That is the basis of our system. It is explicitly designed to force debate, negotiation, and compromise. Regardless of the other values under consideration, this should be a baseline fundamental that cannot be questioned or skirted. Otherwise, the freedoms and rights we hold so dear will be degraded.Again: Donald Trump, Elon Musk, and their administration are acting in opposition to American democracy, freedom, and values. Many of their actions are illegal, and they are actively working to destroy our system of government.They claim many U.S. citizens and residents, the very people they have been elected (or not, in the case of Musk) to represent, serve, and protect, are “enemies.” NO. We are all neighbors and community members, all in this together. We will disagree, but we must do so as fellows. If they cannot respect that, they do not deserve your support.I ask you to please use all of your power and influence to require this administration to respect our system of government, accept the necessary compromises of checks and balances, and represent all Americans, not pick and choose among us.Thank you.
Resistance is contagious. Expose others to your resistance.
I also recently posted this thought: It's about reputation and perception. If this president says something is so, his supporters will accept that as a true fact not open to question. Even if he does something contradicting what he has said, others attest to those actions, and evidence of those actions is provided, they will not question it so long as he stands by his claim.
Many items I've shared lately on this blog have influenced what I wrote above, about resistance being contagious. Here are some of the key ideas that keep running through my mind:
Anticipatory Obedience
Social Proof
The Defiance Domino Effect
Conformity and Dissent
Living Authentically
The Power of Language & Storytelling
Here's a bit more about each of them:
Some democracy advocates worry that too many of our civic institutions are softening their postures toward Trump to avoid getting on his bad side, pointing to what the historian Timothy Snyder calls "anticipatory obedience:""Most of the power of authoritarianism is freely given. In times like these, individuals think ahead about what a more repressive government will want, and then offer themselves without being asked. A citizen who adapts in this way is teaching power what it can do."
See more at post: Look at the World from a Different Perspective
Social proof is a psychological phenomenon where people look to the actions of others to determine appropriate behavior, especially in uncertain situations.“It states that one means we use to determine what is correct is to find out what other people think is correct,” social psychologist Robert Cialdini wrote in his best-selling book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. “The principle applies especially to the way we decide what constitutes correct behavior. We view a behavior as more correct in a given situation to the degree that we see others performing it.”People tend to copy what other people do. If something is popular, we tend to trust it more. When many other people buy a product or follow a trend, we tend to assume it’s good. Our brains are wired to look for clues from other people’s choices. It’s a basic human instinct to follow the crowd. "Monkey see, monkey do."
See more at post: All Wars Are Civil Wars
When you defy, it transforms you because you can be more yourself. You’re more authentic. You have a more joyful, honest life. That fascinates me as a psychologist.[The second thing] is what I call the “defiance domino effect.” This is how defiance transforms the people who observe it.. . . That moment affected me. It changed how I thought about defiance, and what I would like to see in the world on a larger scale. Society is built on all of these smaller moments, and I want to see a society where one of the teens would’ve spoken up against his peers so my immigrant mother wouldn’t have to. That’s the type of social change that I would like to see in the world — one where every individual makes a difference.
See more at post: All Wars Are Civil Wars
A great deal of coordination is accomplished via conformity to norms. Conformity has been observed in every domain of life where researchers have looked for it. Experiments have revealed conformity in fashion, political and musical preferences, moral values, eating and drinking behaviors, sexual practices, social attitudes, cooperation, and conflict. What people think, feel, and do is influenced, often to a startling degree, by what they believe everyone else is thinking, feeling, and doing. And because they are bound to groups and identities, the particular norms that guide people at any given moment can vary depending on which parts of themselves are the most salient and active.-The real benefits of dissenters come less from the ideas they espouse or suggestions they make than from the ways they change how the rest of us think.When people are exposed to popularly held ideas, their thinking tends to be lazy and narrow, focused on whether or not the majority view is correct. But when they hear a minority point of view, a rarer perspective, their thinking expands. They start to ponder why anyone would endorse that idea. Truth be told, they often start to argue against it, but in doing so they are forced to cast a wider net of thought, considering and perhaps even questioning their own assumptions.This is critical because this is how dissent can improve innovation, creativity, and group decision-making. Dissent is effective because it changes the ways that other people think. This means that dissenters do not actually have to be right to benefit the group—they just have to speak up enough to get others thinking. Their mere presence can spark more divergent thought and open up space for others to express alternative views.
Source: the book The Power of Us: Harnessing Our Shared Identities to Improve Performance, Increase Cooperation, and Promote Social Harmony by Jay J. Van Bavel and Dominic J. Packer.
See more at post: Expand Your Identities
Contemporary dissidents share a mindset, what Václav Havel once called an “existential attitude.” They did not wake up one day and decide to take on the regimes of their countries. They just allowed themselves to be guided by their own individuality . . . Dissidents are born out of this choice: either assert their authentic selves or accept the authoritarian’s mafioso bargain, safety and protection in exchange for keeping one’s head down. Those rare few who just can’t make that bargain—they transform into dissidents. . . .They wanted to live authentically in societies that asked them constantly to lie. . . .What dissidents teach us is not to normalize. . . .They are outliers not because they run toward oppositional views but because they simply insist on pursuing their interests, their curiosities, their desires and unique ways of being human.
Source: What Dissidents Can Teach Us
See more at post: A Blend of Boldness and Despair
And one new one from Rebecca Solnit, who has been inspired by recent events to start sharing her own resistance in the hopes that it will be contagious.
Every crisis is in part a storytelling crisis, and the current one here in the US is also a language crisis. How we use the language and how we listen for lies that are in single words and phrases as well as in sentences or narratives is part of what we can and must do to resist the Trump Administration's authoritarian agenda. A single word can be a lie. For example, journalists are still calling what Musk and his child army have been doing an operation in pursuit of government efficiency. It is true that in a wink-wink jokey way DOGE is called the Department of Government Efficiency. It's also true that it's not a department, they demonstrably don't give a damn about efficiency, nor are they competent to produce it or pursuing it. It's about efficiency in the same way that the Ministry of Truth in Nineteen Eighty-Four was about truth.The language to describe DOGE should be the language of invasion and attack, on specific departments, on the stability and functionality of the US government, and on the Constitution and the rule of law, on the rights and needs and even survival of ordinary people. What Musk and Trump are engaged in is a coup attempt and an assault on the federal government, and while more and more people are using the word coup, in other stories journalists are still perpetrating the lie that efficiency is DOGE's goal. It is cheaper to build a car without brakes, though when the driver wants to stop, the results may be undesirable. Severing a limb is a quick weight loss method. We will quite possibly spend less money on a federal government that is no longer functional--but it's our money and we do get some things in return for it we cannot do without.Departments that protect people, systems, and places are being destroyed, sabotaged, wrecked, their security trashed, their functions halted or impaired, their staff sidelined or shut out, and their websites taken down. Even in a piece of journalism reporting on the damage and destruction, talking about efficiency as the goal legitimizes the motives and muddles the impact. Many are doing the same now with Musk's attacks and agenda. If DOGE was really interested in improving thrift while preserving function, it would probably use accountants who are actually skilled at reviewing spending, but I have heard no reports of accountants involved. It's transparently ridiculous to pretend that a bunch of tech dudes can pop into a complex administrative department and somehow over a weekend or in a matter of days improve it. You can destroy things without understanding them. You can't redesign them without that understanding. . . .The language belongs to all of us and to each of us, and under most situations short of torture and imprisonment most of us have some agency in how we use it. Authoritarians recognize that authority over language itself is vital to their power, and these ones want to use language to impose white supremacy, trans hate, the anti-indigenous politics of putting President McKinley's name back on Mount Denali. Going along with them is a surrender most of us don't have to engage in.But a lot of major corporations have. Not only have Google and Apple both changed the name of the Gulf of Mexico to the preposterous but oh-so white nationalist Gulf of America, but the Associated Press reported it was coerced to do so, and to its credit it protested publicly. . . .Meanwhile a novelist alerted me that the National Endowment for the Arts grant applications have added a requirement that applicants must comply with Trumpian ideology. . . .In this moment it's not hard for you and me and lots of everyday people to have more integrity, more respect for truth, and more courage than too many of our largest corporations, news organizations, and politicians. It's a small part of the work we need to do, but a vital one.
My emphasis added.
That's where my mind has been lately. Attention glued to the news, feeling distraught and powerless, wondering what to do about the damage being done to our government and to people's lives. It's been hard to find the focus needed to read, but I've managed a few books along the way.
First, a snippet from Fake Chinese Sounds by Jing Jing Tsong.
Black-and-white talk = nonsense.
Things are never just black and white.
(What I wrote of the book in my review, for context: An excellent story of a middle grade girl navigating American life as a Chinese immigrant and her efforts to figure out how to meld the two cultures into her identity. Very everyday, slice of life and relatable; not preachy; sometimes poignant, but understated and not dramatic. It's a personal and personable story.)
I didn't really write reviews of the first two books in N.K. Jemisin's The Broken Earth trilogy because they are already well-known and popular, but I felt moved to write this after finishing the third, The Stone Sky.
Fantasy and science fiction stories almost always involve an element of
race relations. I realized this in seventh or eighth grade when Tolkien
turned me on to the genre and that was all I read for years. The
differences between humans, hobbits, dwarves, and elves, how their
societies navigate those differences, the conflicts that arise between
their cultures, the ingrained hatreds and mistrust of difference. In
sci-fi, the same dynamic but with aliens. Even at that young age I never
felt these were escapist imaginings, but allegorical and metaphorical
reflections of social, cultural, national, and racial dynamics in real
life.
It's not an absolute universal, but it's there more often than not--real life, after all, can't avoid tribal dynamics; so if the people in a fictional story are to feel real and true, tribal dynamics will be a part of their lives, too. Sometimes that's all it is, a small element of the characters' thoughts and relationships to give them grounding and context. Often, though, race relations are fundamental to the characters' journeys and are a key part of the heart of the story. Real social and psychological dynamics at the core; a story of fantastical adventures on top.
The Broken Earth trilogy is one such story. From the start, it implicitly considers what qualifies a sentient being as "human." And, along the way, what qualifies as "a sentient being." Those considerations only grow as the tale does, becoming more integral to the characters' journeys, dimensions and layers added as more of the story of this planet and its inhabitants revealed. Not only cultural and racial differences, but different versions of human, artificial intelligence, and intelligent nature. There are forms of slavery, caste systems, species hierarchies. And it demonstrates difference is no barrier to personhood and humanity, that compelling human experiences come in all shapes and sizes.
I mention this core of social and psychological dynamics mainly because the fantastical adventures layered upon it are so engaging, interesting, and exciting that no more needs to be written about them. It's an amazing story of magic and technology gone awry to such an extent to have broken the earth and the broken lives the succeeding generations of survivors must live--and the small group of individuals hoping to bring healing to their unstable planet. It is a masterfully told, deeply satisfying story.
Worthy of the acclaim.
A couple of excerpts from this book that stood out to me:
It's not an absolute universal, but it's there more often than not--real life, after all, can't avoid tribal dynamics; so if the people in a fictional story are to feel real and true, tribal dynamics will be a part of their lives, too. Sometimes that's all it is, a small element of the characters' thoughts and relationships to give them grounding and context. Often, though, race relations are fundamental to the characters' journeys and are a key part of the heart of the story. Real social and psychological dynamics at the core; a story of fantastical adventures on top.
The Broken Earth trilogy is one such story. From the start, it implicitly considers what qualifies a sentient being as "human." And, along the way, what qualifies as "a sentient being." Those considerations only grow as the tale does, becoming more integral to the characters' journeys, dimensions and layers added as more of the story of this planet and its inhabitants revealed. Not only cultural and racial differences, but different versions of human, artificial intelligence, and intelligent nature. There are forms of slavery, caste systems, species hierarchies. And it demonstrates difference is no barrier to personhood and humanity, that compelling human experiences come in all shapes and sizes.
I mention this core of social and psychological dynamics mainly because the fantastical adventures layered upon it are so engaging, interesting, and exciting that no more needs to be written about them. It's an amazing story of magic and technology gone awry to such an extent to have broken the earth and the broken lives the succeeding generations of survivors must live--and the small group of individuals hoping to bring healing to their unstable planet. It is a masterfully told, deeply satisfying story.
Worthy of the acclaim.
A couple of excerpts from this book that stood out to me:
There are stages to the process of being betrayed by your society. One is jolted from a place of complacency by the discovery of difference, by hypocrisy, by inexplicable or incongruous ill treatment. What follows is a time of confusion--unlearning what one thought to be the truth. Immersing oneself in the new truth. And then a decision must be made.
Some accept their fate. Swallow their pride, forget the real truth, embrace the falsehood for all they're worth--because, they decide, they cannot be worth much. If a whole society has dedicated itself to their subjugation, after all, then surely they deserve it? Even if they don't, fighting back is too painful, too impossible. At least this way there is peace, of a sort. Fleetingly.
The alternative is to demand the impossible. It isn't right, they whisper, weep, shout; what has been done to them is not right. The are not inferior. They do not deserve it. And so it is the society that must change. There can be peace this way, too, but not before conflict.
No one reaches this place without a false start or two.
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"What is it that you want?"
"Only to be with you," I say.
"Why?"
I adjust myself to a posture of humility, with head bowed and one hand over my chest. "Because that is how one survives eternity," I say, "or even a few years. Friends. Family. Moving with them. Moving forward."
"Friends, family," you say. "Which am I, to you?"
"Both and more. We are beyond such things."
"Hmm."
I am not anxious. "What do you want?"
You consider. Then you say, "I want the world to be better."
I have never regretted more my inability to leap into the air and whoop for joy.
Instead, I transit to you, with one hand proffered. "Then let's go make it better."
You look amused. "Just like that?"
"It might take some time."
"I don't think I'm very patient." But you take my hand.
Don't be patient. Don't ever be. This is the way a new world begins.
"Neither am I," I say. "So let's get to it."
And one shorter quote that I appreciate: When we say that "the world has ended," remember--it is usually a lie. The planet is just fine.
I don't know why I decided to read The Vulnerables by Sigrid Nunez or what brought it to my attention, but I enjoyed it. Here's a review.
As much a collection of ruminations as a story. And intentionally cryptic and cagey about whether it's fiction or autobiography.
The story is about a somewhat older author named Sigrid Nunez living through lockdown and social distancing during the Covid-19 pandemic of 2020. Well, maybe named Sigrid Nunez--I don't think the narrator names herself, but she says at one point her computer spell-checked her name and suggested "Sugared Nouns"; and other details about her would seem to match. This is in one of many sections of ruminations about writing and authors and authorship, one that includes: You can start with fiction or start with documentary, according to Jean-Luc Godard. Either way, you will inevitably find the other. As I said, cryptic and cagey.
Anyway, the story is about an author resembling this book's author during covid in 2020. She, like many others, must take extra care to isolate because she is vulnerable to the infection. She has good friends, but lives alone. Then she is invited to house sit for the friend of a friend to take care of a parrot. And then she is joined by the bird's first sitter, a male college student, who had earlier abandoned his post. It's a story about isolation and unexpected connections.
More than the story, though, I enjoyed the ruminations. The author's thoughts about a wealth of topics related--sometimes only vaguely and tangentially--to events in her life. I wasn't engaged by the story, but by her and her storytelling.
It's a thoughtful, reflective, introspective book that I quite enjoyed.
The story is about a somewhat older author named Sigrid Nunez living through lockdown and social distancing during the Covid-19 pandemic of 2020. Well, maybe named Sigrid Nunez--I don't think the narrator names herself, but she says at one point her computer spell-checked her name and suggested "Sugared Nouns"; and other details about her would seem to match. This is in one of many sections of ruminations about writing and authors and authorship, one that includes: You can start with fiction or start with documentary, according to Jean-Luc Godard. Either way, you will inevitably find the other. As I said, cryptic and cagey.
Anyway, the story is about an author resembling this book's author during covid in 2020. She, like many others, must take extra care to isolate because she is vulnerable to the infection. She has good friends, but lives alone. Then she is invited to house sit for the friend of a friend to take care of a parrot. And then she is joined by the bird's first sitter, a male college student, who had earlier abandoned his post. It's a story about isolation and unexpected connections.
More than the story, though, I enjoyed the ruminations. The author's thoughts about a wealth of topics related--sometimes only vaguely and tangentially--to events in her life. I wasn't engaged by the story, but by her and her storytelling.
It's a thoughtful, reflective, introspective book that I quite enjoyed.
A few of her ruminations that I marked:
Only when I was young did I believe that it was important to remember what happened in every novel I read. Now I know the truth: what matters is what you experience while reading, the states of feeling that the story evokes, the questions that rise to your mind, rather than the fictional events described. They should teach you this in school, but they don’t.-----Some writers use pen names so that they can be more truthful; others, so that they can tell more lies.-----[Of the documentary film My Octopus Teacher, made by Craig Foster:]
Gentleness is the most important thing that hours and hours in nature can teach, Foster says.
She made me feel just how precious wild places are, he says. You start to care about all the animals, even the tiniest ones, you understand how highly vulnerable these animals' lives are, how vulnerable all lives are. You start to think about your own vulnerability and about death, your own death.
And in the hours and hours he spent exploring the kelp forest, he was stunned repeatedly by the intelligence--the genius--of what he calls the forest mind, a great underwater brain developed over eons, and the intricate work it does to keep everything balanced.
What matters is what you experience while reading.
Abby E. MurrayIt’s February and alreadyI’ve overspent my budgeted bewildermentfor the year, most of it on deep & constantsorrow: war, deportations, deployments, hatredforged into policy, theft, dead phone linesand locked doors. I’ve seen more planes fallfrom the clouds this winter than snow. So,for less than an inch of scattered flakes across the city,our superintendent delays schools for two hours,and before I fill them with what I have in excess—lack of amusement, a backlog of worry, and work—my daughter runs outside, gloveless, hatless,and all I can think is how lucky she is, at least,not to be named after industry or my assumptionsabout her purpose on this planet. When I readabout the young couple practicing eugenicsin preparation for an apocalypse, the mother’sridiculous straw bonnet and father’s smug facedon’t make my jaw drop. My eyes don’t widen.Belief is the new disbelief. Grief, not shock,is this year’s renewable resource, and baby,the harvest looks plentiful. My daughter returnsto show me how she scraped togetherjust enough sidewalk grit and ice to sculpta snowman the size of a pigeon. She props it upin the weeds we call a yard and it stays for days,long after the sun revokes what’s leftof the frost and glitter. It delights us withoutthe burden of surprise, which has never improvedanyone’s life, or built a single beautiful thing.from Poets Respond
Build beautiful things.
Be contagious.